This is a vexing question. Watching the interaction between girls in fourth grade during a typical lunch hour, I found myself wondering how girls learned to be so mean to each other. It is not always easy to spot either, as girls tend to take a much more nonverbal approach to meanness than boys do. It is much simpler, however, to pick out the one who is on the receiving end of the nasty stares, the whispers, and the gestures. Because of the ‘underground’ nature of the type of bullying that takes place, it is difficult (if not impossible) for teachers to stay ahead of it. The last thing a teacher wants to do, is to interrupt classroom time to deal with an ongoing conflict between girls. So, what can we do to help stop this?
Katie Hurley has some good advice in her article Want to Stop Mean Girls? Raise Nice Girls, Instead. You can read the entire article here.
We talk about kindness in one of the recent stories on the site, and have an activity that helps girls practice kindness on a regular basis (to make it part of their regular routine).
If you have suggestions, would love for you to leave them below. Thanks for reading!!